Eww. Haven’t we all gone through this particular stage in our lives? You get close to a guy or a girl, of the opposite gender of course, then have these mixed feelings inside about how you feel as you get to know them much better. You slowly start liking them, then start missing them, then you ask yourself WHY you feel that way. And because your life just isn’t challenging enough, you want to complicate it further. So you start giving nice things to each other, say sweet nothings to each other, and see each other as much as you can. But hey… you’re just friends. These are normal things close friends do for each other. I’ve heard a friend of mine say this to me a million times. Yeah right.

Now let’s see… the act of delusion. Take a good look at this picture for a minute. Now take a good look at yourself, and the situation you’re in. Does it look vaguely familiar? If it does, and you are in this state, you would most likely be afraid of two things.

First, you’re afraid to get hurt. You’ve played the scenario in your head already. You gather up all the courage you have and ask him how he feels about you, because something inside tells you that it MUST be something different… something special. But what if he doesn’t feel the same way and it’s all just in your head? The mere possibility of being rejected sends an eerie chill down your spine.

Second, you’re afraid to lose him. Just like the two lovebirds above, the fear is that when you expose your true feelings to someone and it is rejected, you not only lose your friendship, but lose him altogether. And for many people, that is an unacceptable option. They would rather live in the fantasy world they are in now, just to be able to enjoy the fleeting closeness that they have gotten so used to. Letting go of that blissful state is something they would never risk.

But what good is there in that kind of fear? Given that there is a slight risk, but would you rather pretend than risk truly knowing what could be? When the time comes that some hot princess takes your precious prince away from you, the realization and regret you will have will be but all too late. And it has happened time and time again, to countless, countless people all around the merry world.

Personally, I could never live with such a question mark in my head. The “what-if’s and what-could-have-been’s” of life must be answered and can be answered. All it takes is a little courage for you to be able to take that leap of faith and then you can know for sure. What do you lose anyway? Your pride? Pride is for fools especially when it comes to matters of the heart. You should never be a fool because of pride, but you could always be a fool for love, right? Hehe! My fiancee had sent me something before called “Love’s Risk.” And it says, rather appropriately to end this topic…

“Love is the greatest of all risks. It is not reliable, it is not cautious. It is not sympathetic and it is merciless. It strikes the strongest of mind, and brings them to their knees in one blow. The risk of love never depletes, it grows stronger and more dangerous with time. It consumes your every thought and desire… and every breath you take. It is the fire that fuels you, to do more than just pass through life. It urges you instead, to live. No matter what the outcome, having felt love, you will never be the same. It may scar your heart and your soul, and leave you with only memories of forever. Or it may cause every day of your life, to feel like there is no need for tomorrow. Love is worth it. It is worth the risk. For in all of life, love is truly the only risk worth taking.”